Happiness isn’t something you simply wake up with one day. Happiness is something you have to choose, something to strive for, to work towards. you can wish for happiness, but if you rarely make choices that align with your idea of happiness, you will never truly fill it. Accept that there will be some testing moments and try a little harder to honor yourself and make decisions that better your life and also your mental state. Show up for yourself first , so you can show up for others. Remember that you have to choose happiness, it doesn’t always choose you. So stay true to your idea of happiness and make a point of doing things (no matter how small they may seem) each day to help you achieve it.
The best kind of people are the ones who love you unconditionally, are soft and gentle with your heart and soul, take responsibility for their actions, respect other members of your family let you be yourself and accept you as you are , forgive others instead of seek revenge, patient with your struggles, help you without expecting anything in return, listen attentively, ask you to message them when you get home safe, check up on you when you are quiet, see the best in you even when you can’t, find happiness in your happiness, don’t try to make you feel guilty for being upset, are always honest, kind and loyal, hold space for you to feel your feelings without judgement. Some things you probably won’t regret are -doing more study, reading more and more books, being more honest, following your passion (such as painting or poetry), being kind to a stranger, finding your purpose, taking a break when you need one, sometimes listening to your brain, just to save your heart, taking care of your mental health, letting go of toxic people, loving yourself more and more.
A bad relationship is like standing on broken glass, if you stay you will keep hurting dear and if you walk away you will also hurt but eventually you will heal. Ask yourself what you want your life to look like, close your eyes and try to picture yourself living your happiest life to the highest potential. Notice what surrounds you, who surrounds you. Notice what you have and what you bravely left behind to get to this place of peace. Now think about the present moment and ask yourself if the life you are living now will eventually lead you to the life you were just imagining for yourself. And if the answer is no, ask yourself what you could do differently. Sometimes you have to let people go because in the ocean of life when all you’re trying to do is stay afloat, they’re the anchor that’s drowning you. We are often let down by those we trusted and loved by the most unexpected ones. Some make us cry for things that we haven’t done, others ignore our faults and just see our smile, some leave us when we need them most, some stay with us when we ask them to leave.
The world is a mixture of people, we just need to know which hand to shake and which hand to hold. You have only one life to live, so live it without worrying about what others may think about you. In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take. Apparently we actually live two lives. The second one starts when we realise we only have one. Love the one who loves you back unconditionally not your bank balance, big house or cars , don’t waste it on those that only love you when the conditions are right for them. A relationship doesn’t solely belong to one person. No matter how hard you try. If the feeling is not mutual , it’ll be fruitless. And if the feelings are mutual the effort will be equal.
Remember “Understanding” is an art and not everyone is an artist. You don’t love someone who wants your money, materialistic things and whatever. To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist that’s all. So be the rare one, have fun, fall in love again, regret nothing, and don’t let people bring you down. Right decisions determine the direction of your destiny. The right decisions are always the hardest to make, but they must be made in order to live the life you deserve.